De-armouring the SoulAugust 21, 2018
Recently, I heard about a workshop called “de-armouring” the body. I remember hearing the term and thinking: Hey, that “word” really speaks to me. So when my friend laid me down on a mat, in this beautiful temple-like space, and gave me a sampling of it, I was thrilled.
The idea is that we store traumas in our bodies and de-armouring consists of finding those little-nestled spots where the trauma hides. You press these specific points on your body, and voilà, the de-armouring starts as you breathe out until they no longer feel sensitive. Well, “The Body Never Lies” as Alice Miller says! It knows what you might not even be aware of!
Anyhow, yes, “de-armouring”. The word simply resonated throughout my body. Then, it clicked. I do exactly this for people but on the soul level.
I help people “de-armour” their soul. I help them let go of the defence mechanisms they’ve created to cope with their lives. So to make this a little clearer, let’s imagine a scenario. Let’s say you grew up in an environment where you experienced emotional “abandonment” multiple times in your life. Well, as soon as someone looks like they could potentially abandon you, your abandonment armour kicks in! Just think of the energetic armour that you deploy all over your body to protect yourself from any potential abandonment!
Now, just hold that picture for a moment: You in that abandonment armour! Do you see it? Ok, what if you add “sex” into the mix now. Well, many have fantasies of having sex with a knight in shining armour, but just think of it for a moment. How uncomfortable would that be!? LOL!
How cold. How austere. How inflexible. How cutting. How metallic. How hard. In an unpleasant way!!!
Wouldn’t you much rather plush tender skin? Sensual loving touch? A warm embrace!? Deep authentic connection?
This, we can achieve with de-armouring of the soul. No, you don’t have to remain a sensitive trigger point, always on edge, ready to put up the force field, the iron shield, for the rest of your life! And for the sake of clarity, I’d also like the draw your attention to the difference between armour and boundaries, they are two different beasts. Armour: you react and hide. Boundary: You are clear and attentive to your needs.
The results: Well, I think I’ll let you imagine what happens when you take the armour off! ; ) ; ) My clients have some pretty good tales to tell. Some pinch themselves because they thought they would never experience that freedom and connection that comes when you finally take the armour off.
If you are ready to go through this process on the soul level, we need to too-alk! Just as a side note, what I have come to see is that if you don’t take care of the issues at the soul level, the pattern will just reoccur over and over again, until you do.
Join me for the amazing de-armouring journey built into The Art of Co-Creative Sex Online Program. Starts September 23rd!
Author of “Sex Up Your Life: The Mind-Blowing Path to True Intimacy, Healing, and Hope”